- Quality Time
- Words Of Affirmation
- Acts Of Service
- Physical Touch
I have never really thought about applying these to my children until I came across an article on how to love your child using the five Love Languages. I thought about this one for a while, and I am very sure that my three year old's language is Words of Affirmation. He always tells me he loves me and says the cutest things, and responds well to praise.
I really enjoyed reading the suggestions on how to use Words of Affirmation to show Lucas how much I love and appreciate him. Too often, my tone of voice can sound very exasperated and he picks up on this and gets frustrated. The tips I put into use were:
- Telling him how proud I was of him for doing things well such as playing nicely with his brother, eating all of his dinner and sharing his toys.
- Saying "I Love You" with eye contact.
- Apologising when I do something wrong.
- Taking more notice of my tone of voice when speaking.
Adam was a bit harder to figure out since he was so young, but he loves to be cuddled and held so I decided to use the tips on loving him through Physical Touch. The ways I did this were:
- Cuddling him when reading a book
- Lots of hugs
- Pats on the back
I also want to focus on Quality Time with both of my boys, as I feel that this Love Language is the secondary language for them. So far I have:
- taken Lucas on a hot chocolate date
- let Lucas help me cook
- Played games with Lucas
- Taken Lucas with me when running errands
I really urge you to read this article, it has made me realise that how I express my love isn't necessarily how my sons want to be loved. Using these tips, I can have some ways of showing them how much I love them without just saying it.
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